Thursday, March 27, 2014

Learning The Meaning Of Marriage


Let the husband render to his wife the affection to her,
and likewise also the wife to her husband.
The wife does not have authority over her own body,
but the husband does.  And likewise the husband does not have
authority over his own body, but the wife does.
1 Corinthians 7: 3 -- 4

            If there is any Scripture that has been used both in the good way and also in the bad way are these two Scriptures.  Therefore I'm going to take a moment to examine the Greek language, and the Greek words, so that we can come to a correct understanding as to what the Greeks understood when they read or heard these words.  The New King James Version states, the husband should render to his wife affection.  In some sense that translation rightly understood is a good translation but does not necessarily tell us what the Greeks understood.  The Authorized King James Version of 1611, renders the Greek word as benevolence, therefore we must investigate so that we truly understand what Paul was telling the Corinthians and telling us: the Greek word in verse three is: "εύνοιαν," and according to wrongs Greek dictionary #2133 defines the word thusly, kindness and as a euphem, conjugal duty, benevolence, goodwill, heartiness. This word is right but also from: "εύνοέω"  Is translated for one to have kind thoughts, be well affected, or kindly, dispose towards.  Paul is very clear in regards to the duty that must be rendered by the husband to the wife and then adds that let the wife is to return the same and the Greek word is very clear for it is an imperative and is: "άποδιδότω"  And has a meaning for one to give an answer to a claim or an expectation, to render aid to, to recompense, to discharge an obligation, to pay a debt, to render back, we quite, to give back, to restore, to refund.  The New King James renders this word as render.  The English dictionary is clear as to what this word also means, which is to cause or to become, to furnish to provide to render aid to pay a debt, to give back to restore, to cover, it is clear that there is a direct command.  The husband is to render goodwill, kindness, and even conjugal duty and to do less than this is to abdicate your duty, and responsibility to the command of God.  Both the husband and wife do not have absolute authority over their bodies.  Both are to work goodwill, benevolence, affection, towards one another.  There will be times when there will be differences of opinion. This is not the time in which one pulls the authority card, and hold their authority over the head of the other in some sort of power-play.  Rather it is a time   to listen carefully to one another and arrive at a solution.  Bickering, anger, shouting, is not following the command of God to love one another and yet this is what is done so often because one wants it in their way and gives no room for another way.  Sometimes this happens: "Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give your self to fasting and prayer; and come together and can sell that Satan does not attempt you because of your lack of self-control" (1 Corinthians 7:5).  It may be humorous to say, "go sleep on the couch tonight" and it may be necessary in the head that does happen, but this should be the exception not the rule.  I'm laughing at myself as I write this because we are human and there are times when we do need to separate for a moment.  Although the separation that may come really should be devoted to a time of fasting and prayer, and not simply to goal of mad and angry and in some sort of huff.  Turn to scripture, turn to prayer, turn to God for the answer for he is ready and able beyond measure to help you.  That is true only if you come to him and asked him to help you: "But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.  Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things.  Sufficient for the day is its own trouble" (Matthew 6: 33 -- 34).
            Paul now adds this to what he had said in verse one of Chapter 7: "but I say this as a concession, not as a commandment.  For I do wish that all men were even as I myself.  But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that" (1 Corinthians 7:6 -- 7).  Paul now furthers explains verse six: "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: it is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry.  For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7 -- 9).  Paul clearly understands the nature of man and the gift that God has given both men and women can come together and conjugal intimacy but does warn that we are not to allow the fire of passion to over come sold out in morality is committed.  There is never a need to rush off to find some one just because you are burning with passion and Paul is not suggesting this for what he is actually suggesting is that if this is true then it is necessary that they do marry but as God commands that we marry another person who is also a Christian.  I will cover this more in the next blogs.  Until then read this chapter carefully and apply what Paul is writing under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit to guide our allies.  Who then has a priority of our life?  Is it ourselves or is it the Lord Jesus Christ?

The LORD of host is with us;
            the God of Jacob is our refuge.
                                    Psalm 46:7

God has blessed you forever

Richard L. Crumb

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